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I have a wife. I also have a baby’s mama. Those are two separate situations in my life and I do my best to make sure my wife doesn’t feel any insecurity towards my son’s mother. If you watch shows like Love and Hip-Hop, Basketball Wives, or the Real Housewives of Atlanta, there’s always baby mama/baby daddy issues. But what happens when this BM/BD break up? How does that change the dynamic of the whole BM/BD relationship?
This is going to be Pt. 1 in a series of blogs about the BM/BD situations. Today is going to be about what happens when the relationship is over.
In a Washington Post article written in 2009, almost 40% of all children are born to single mothers or out of wedlock. That means there’s a gang of kids growing up in a household with only one of their real parents. The games begin when the BM/BD relationship ends. Fellas, why is it ok for you to deny your child once y’all stop f@#kin’? Sounds really lame to me. Ladies, why do think it’s cool for you to deny you’re BD the right to see his child(ren) because y’all stopped f@#kin’? What type of bird sh*t are you pulling? I would think everybody would realize these children aren’t pawns in a game. I would hope everybody understands these children don’t care about the bullsh*t, they just want their mommy/daddy to show them love and attention. In the meantime the games are on.
This scenario is all too common : Couple has a child, relationship ends (for whatever reason), BM/BD try to work it out a couple of times, it doesn’t work, they try again and still doesn’t work. Here we go with the b.s. BD decides since he can’t have his BM, he ain’t doing sh*t for his kid(s). He won’t bring diapers, formula, sneakers, school clothes, time, energy, effort or his “Dad” voice. He’s done with his BM, therefore he’s done with his child(ren).
This one is becoming even more common(I went through it): Everything you read above except the BM isn’t going to deny the kid. Nope, what she’s going to do is deny the BD the ability to see and take care of his kid(s). He isn’t allowed to pick them up or when a visit is scheduled, she’ll change her mind. The BD won’t know about events, doctors appointments, school pictures, nothing. BM figures if BD isn’t going to be with her, he shouldn’t be able to see his kid(s).
Why are these children being used as pawns on a daily basis? Why are these children a part of this war between two people that claimed they love each other at one point? What benefits come from these games being played?
The only thing worse than a dead beat dad is a bird who won’t allow a man be a dad. Let’s get it together and understand it’s not about you. You’re kid(s) are suffering.
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